tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6526766004112404235.post8100681042797735780..comments2023-08-01T09:01:09.440-04:00Comments on Tonya Talk: Just Think PositiveTonyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01573072091399987210noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6526766004112404235.post-24380379877949368352010-06-04T10:17:34.345-04:002010-06-04T10:17:34.345-04:00Tonya,
I experienced the same things in my subse...Tonya, <br /><br />I experienced the same things in my subsequent pregnancy. You are so right, thinking positive will not change the outcome and what people do not understand is that we KNOW what the "negative" outcome is. We have lived through having a child that did not live outside of our wombs. There is no way anyone can block those feelings or thoughts out and erase the experiences we have been through. They are NOT "negative" they are our REALITY and the life that we live everyday. <br /><br />I know that you are positive and have hope that you will hold your sweet boy in a few months but that doesn't mean that you won't have bad days when you lose that hope even for a little bit. It's so easy to take our eyes off of Jesus when the fear consumes and overwhelms us. <br /><br />I hope to see you soon!! Ebe said something about you two getting together next week. I would love to join you and bring Elijah for you to meet. <br /><br />Praying for you and your little dumplin <br /><br />Love, <br />MirandaMirandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01893908211307451920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6526766004112404235.post-7264925433593959202010-06-01T15:02:59.138-04:002010-06-01T15:02:59.138-04:00I remember those comments all too well... unfortun...I remember those comments all too well... unfortunately they come from a misunderstanding of the Gospel, maybe well- intentioned but hurtful none the less.<br /><br />A really good friend of mine helped me understand a little bit of this 'positive' thinking stuff when I was pregnant with Hannah Mae. No matter what we think or feel or do or don't do, we won't change the plan God has for us or our children, and if we can- then why not hope today and be joyful of the thing we want most...<br />besides Jesus might come back tomorrow and wouldn't that be the best thing ever?!<br /><br />now...<br />you know me and you know that I did NOT do this well. I'm not coming from a place of being all high and mighty or even telling you what to do.<br /><br />I just thought I'd share because it really helped me in times when I was struggling with what God had in store for Hannah. I wanted to be hopeful, but fear and worry crept in all the time and I got so confused about my thoughts and if they had any impact or if they were foreshadowing Hannah's life and God's plan for her. <br /><br />My heart is with you, Tonya. I love you friend.<br />ebeEbehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01933568282191797153noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6526766004112404235.post-37664069906740271962010-05-28T23:52:19.384-04:002010-05-28T23:52:19.384-04:00Ugh...I write with tears in my eyes. Partially be...Ugh...I write with tears in my eyes. Partially because I cant imagine what you feel, but also because I'm scared to get pregnant again for those same feelings. I wish that nobody had to go through this, but the fact of the matter is that God knows what we need...that doesnt mean He will give us what we want. Its been 3 months since we lost our little girl, and reading about your honesty truly helps me. Thank you. Our babies are in Heaven and will never know the hurt or pain of this world. With each day it passes, its one day closer to spending eternity in Heaven with them! I know our babies are in Heaven rejoicing!<br />"God works ALL things for the good of those who love Him" not some....ALL!!!<br />I'm praying for you and your family~soblessed2behttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08927614785789609092noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6526766004112404235.post-71833763307356680212010-05-28T20:02:21.894-04:002010-05-28T20:02:21.894-04:00People just don't understand. It will be fear ...People just don't understand. It will be fear for those of us who have had a loss. And the fear never goes away. I was told by a friend, that it was OK to be afraid for our children. As time goes by the fears for them change. Thank you for sharing this post.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16071927168876473000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6526766004112404235.post-15130743872919879352010-05-28T17:48:39.215-04:002010-05-28T17:48:39.215-04:00Tonya,
This was so well-written (not that your ot...Tonya, <br />This was so well-written (not that your other posts aren't, but you know!). By writing this, it's obvious that you accept the complete Sovereignty (sp? that doesn't look right) of God. As much as we would've done ANYTHING to bring our sweet babies into the world safely, God is sovereign in all things and nothing we do can change that. But we can embrace the feeling of safety that God is in control! You don't have to think positive thoughts during this pregnancy, but you do need to continue to cling to God and His promises!Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06343969561417373936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6526766004112404235.post-13483444637453284252010-05-27T13:24:26.606-04:002010-05-27T13:24:26.606-04:00I completely agree. My husband and I have had this...I completely agree. My husband and I have had this conversation lately, particularly if I say "if we get to raise a baby...". When you've seen both sides of life I don't think there is anything wrong with being honest. I think you cope however you need to. Excellent post!!Ceciliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06295293307771882688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6526766004112404235.post-29616613835319015182010-05-27T12:02:02.069-04:002010-05-27T12:02:02.069-04:00Thank you for posting this, I know exactly what yo...Thank you for posting this, I know exactly what you mean. So far this pregnancy has been filled with nothing but issues that make me fear the outcome and all I have heard is, your being to negative. I asked my mom not to knit the babies blanket until after 25 weeks to which she said you're just being negative. Now with the latest problem I feel like I can't help but think the worst and I don't want to share it with people IRL because they just don't understand. I certainly don't want the bad outcome nor do I think if I think positively that it would change anything. All I can do is pray. Sorry to ramble you just said a lot of what I've been feeling.My lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11577697959116005711noreply@blogger.com